HUMAN is COMPLICATED

Lately...i had been thinking a lotz...arh..arh...feel like my brain is gonna explode pretty soon... so many things chucked into my tiny brain...i have no idea how long i would be able to hold on to.. but definitely...i am suffering now....why?? why human life is so complicated and disasterious?? no single answer for it...or perhaps i should put it this way... there are many many different answers to it...whether it is correct or wrong...no one knows...

One thing for sure... Human life is indeed COMPLICATED!!!! These are few elements that crossed my mind....career, money, relationship, opportunity and many more which are not listed here...each individual will have different elements affecting their life.. so do I.

Career?...
When is the last time u think about your career? I guess these is what will happen to most of us..
After you graduated from High School..be it Form 5 or Form 6 or Matriculation... you will choose a course(diploma/degree) based on what you want to work as in future... in short your ambition...this is the time when u scratch your head on deciding what course you gonna opt for....you will ask lots of friends around you for advices... and here come the scariest part... YOUR PARENTS DECIDE EVERYTHING FOR U....*I already passed this stage....my advices...choose the course based on your interests...what you want to be in future..

After you graduated from College/ University... you will look for your official first job... sending out lots of applications and attending interviews... your concern will be... how is my English? My communication skills? My attire? What are they gonna ask me ? How much expected salary? and many many more....

You have a stable job with a proper income...you will jump to another company that provided you with a higher pay, better beneficts and better career advancement...

Money?...
Human always say.."MONEY NOT ENOUGH".....i totally agreed with this....money is just like a drug...can't live without it...a must for everyone in order to survive in this world... we use money everyday....spend on foods, drinks, transportations (fuel, train, bus), shoppings, entertainments and many many more...there go all the money but where come all the money for u to spend? so everyday human will think about how to earn more money? where they can earn fast penny? Now, you can see...the importants of money and undeniable fact: Human can't live without MONEY... here come the stress to all the human in order to survive in this materialistic world...

I know, someone of you might have think of this, "Why I am not born in a whealthy family?" or "Why he/she can buy so many branded stuffs?" or "Wow! he/she is so rich..drive a big car... and why not me?" That's is nothing wrong if u envy them... i did have this kind of feeling as well... it is a human nature... it can be a positive driving force to push you to work hard for a better standard of living and you can be just like them one day.... and you can see that your effort worth it when it bears fruits...

Relationship?...
There are no concrete form of relationship...it can come in many forms...depending on the what type of connections the relationship refers to...family? friend? lover?...and so on...

Friend?...
Best friends? Do you really believe that they are your best friends? Vise versa, do u really think that they treat u as their best friends or buddies? YES..some of you may answer YES.....what about NO...of course some may choose NO... no exact answer for that... depends on everyone circumstances and who are you dealing with...i had some cases, which happend around my friends....they were good friends when they are small and became enermy during college time just because of small misunderstanding...so there are a lots of things which are not forever and it will change with time...so what make me think about this and raise up this issue? Here is something to share with you guys....do you ever hear abt this "There is NO TRUE FRIENDSHIP in this world "...i do not know how true is this statement and i am sure not everyone agree with it...but i choose to believe it, does not mean i am agree with it... everyone is using each other for some beneficts....lets recall... ' Ed, can you accompany me to KLCC?' this incated you are using him as your companion since you will be alone shopping... 'Lee, can I borrow your lab report?' this indicated you will copy your friend lab report *not everyone will copy..hehe* others example i leave it to you guys...try to recall it..it is very funny when recall anything you had done during your school time...i bet lots of example will be coming out... !!!p/s: No hard feeling to anyone of you who read this, i never refer it to anyone and not judging anyone of you, this is just a piece of writing on how i feel...

Recently..i had been very moody coz i quarreled with a friend. I still can't believe that we quarreled just become of a small misunderstanding....this make me feel that human thinking is very complicated...let say there is an issue happened, everyone will have their own point of views...some may think about it in a very simple way, some may think it in a complicated way..and worst..some only think inside the box but not out of it... When i am quarrel with my friend, A there is a third party, B around when I quarreled with A, ...and B observed and suggested that the problem is not me but A.... all this while i thought that it is my fault and i should appologize...but according to B, A is too narrow-minded...he only think inside the box which is himself but not others...Now you can see...Human is complicated... so that is a need of the existance of Psychology..


Lover?...
This is an interesting part to most of you...but i would not disclose anything...i am just writing based on what i felt and observed around all this while... In order for a relationship to start, both parties must agree to commit to each other... this is same to the fact, clapping both of your hands only it will sound.... when a relationship starts, both parties need to put lots of endless efforts to maintain it...is TWO parties, not ONE....this is same like in order for a fire to continue burning, you must refill the oil constantly..

Apart from that, communication between both are utmost important....sharing everything in your life....hapiness...sadness...problems...solutions..decisions with your love one... Do not SILLENCE and IGNORE your love one....SHARE with them your everythings....
Lastly....letting go is the solution rather than dragging it... if you feel that he/she is your soul mate, holding on it or letting it go....if you can't deliver it...


Opportunity?...
In our life, there are lots of opportunities come and go... all you need to do is aim for the target you want and go for it....but learn to say NO if you had tried and failed... you may try it again and failed, learn to give up as this is not something belongs to you and try to opt for other opportunities....